She then told me that her mum had cancer and that they recently found about it,so that’s why she was always so sad. Again, I showed her sympathy. I also told her that coming to university would be beneficial for her and make her forget about it. My grandfather passed at 52, when my mum was at her 3rd year of university. She always told me how much going to university helped her and spoke with the best words about her friends-which she still keeps contact with today. Lily refused and told me that she also didn’t want to see her old company there. By that point, I was very tired of this, to be honest, but decided not to give up.
Well, I am the oldest grandchild of a man I’ve been told was both very charismatic and rather mean man who had a bit of a reputation as a less than honorable scoundrel. He died back in the seventies when I was a young teenager. I remember that after he died, there was a big family uproar over where my grandfather had hidden his “money sock” before he died. This so-called money sick was actually a large, locked cigar box purported to contain a large sum of money (in the half-million dollar range) that supposedly everyone knew about but no one knew where he would have stashed it.
Some felt he’d buried it on the property (he owned around 160 acres of mostly rocky scrub land with clay hills, impenetrable forest and rocky ravines. He was able to farm about half of it for a living). During the debate, some interesting facts emerged that I never knew. The first surprise was when my aunts and uncles discussed their vague memories as children of bonfires in the woods in the middle of the night. It turns out that they were remembering rallies, cross burnings and lynchings by the K K K in the back field (out of sight of prying eyes) and that my grandfather had served as the grand dragon of the state in which he lived.
They said he was easy to recognize because he stood a head and shoulders over everyone else and he was proud of his position and did not wear the hood like most everyone else. The kids were threatened with a serious “whoopin” if they told anyone about their Daddy’s “parties.” Another secret that came out was that even though my grandmother was his legal wife, the nature of their relationship was more of a master-slave type arrangement. She was Please leave a writing thing I usually copy and paste that way have to stop you know I didn’t have the full account data.
To cut things short, I ended up on vacation at my sister’s home, 120 miles from home when things got really bad. I was sent home by emergency transport where my doc was waiting for me and after surgery, the surgeon told my doc when he opened me, there was quite a mess inside. The infection had leaked after my appendix perforated and scar tissue was already forming and had enclosed my right ovary against my abdominal wall. The ovary would have to come out, and soon. During the ‘90s, I had a debacle with my appendix. I would visit the ER every month with excruciating pain and after examination and tests, they would send me home with the diagnosis of “female problems”. My family doctor spoke to a few surgeons and told them he just knew it was my appendix, would they please take a look around? They all refused.
I also tried to make her forget about it, asking her to go to events and even organizing her a small birthday party on her birthday at March. I got her a lipstick and eyeshadows as a birthday gift, plus a cake, decorations… I am not poor, but not wealthy either, like she was, but did my best. Her face got very disgusted when she opened it. “Are you serious Emily? You bought me a gift from X? I don’t use X, I only use F (which I couldnt afford)! You destroyed my birthday! “ she said. I left her house in tears.