As a parent in a wealthy school district where both parents often have advanced degrees, I found public school to be incredibly invasive. My son, who we didn’t know was very early onset schizophrenia was actually delayed in getting his diagnosis because the school district has a policy of never allowing teachers to fill out their half of the psych evaluation forms. We made it through Kindergarten with the first year teacher bringing in a Special Ed teacher for the December parent teacher conference. I asked why and the teacher told me my son didn’t know all his letter sounds.
I have a friend who has two older sisters. Brenda, who is 27, and Michelle, who is 23. Brenda has 4 children, Michelle has 3. Now, both her sisters, although married (at the time) and with kids, continued to live at my friends’ house. They had houses as well, but for some reason, they continued to spend the most time at their parents’ house. My friend said, “Brenda doesn’t give my mom money. But I yelled at Michelle and now she only gives her $100 a week”, 100 DOLLARS, to care for THREE children, they show no remorse towards the poor woman.
My friend always tells me of how both sisters leave their kids with her mom, while they go out and party and get drunk. My friend’s mom is far too nice and does not say a thing, although often complains and has painful moments. My friend says that the sisters work all week and they leave their kids there, so their mom will care for them. On weekends, the kids are left there as well.She has told me many stories of the mess the kids make, from spilling paint that their moms didn’t secure, all over the dresser and beds to knocking over a statue of the Virgin Mary that was besides the TV.
I started laughing and told her I didn’t know what planet she was on, but he went to three years of Montessori pre-school and knew all his letters and sounds at 3.5. In fact, he could actually READ! The teacher then proceeded to tell me “I probably ruined him” from ever learning to read correctly. I laughed and laughed, told her it wasn’t witchcraft, it was just phonics.