I know there are things I should learn, and then there are all the Not all who wander are lost some are looking for cool rocks shirt and by the same token and things I want to learn. One of those lists is getting shorter, and one is getting longer. The whole concept of education focussing on the process, rather than the outcome, is a major paradigm shift for most people. The education structures we have in place are just not built for this, all our measurements are based on outcomes. I believe this results in children learning, parrot fashion, how to plug in the right answers, rather than actually understanding concepts. This is a really tough question for most people, and I noticed that the majority of answers are from women. I am going to answer this question based upon a decision I made 48 years ago. I am today 58 so I made this decision when I was ten. Family life was a wreck, I was an unwanted and unloved child growing up. I cannot tell you the number of times my mother told me she wished I was dead. The abuse in all respects was beyond torturous and it did not get better as time went on. There is so much more that was going on in my life that it would take me too long to write it all, but at ten years old I made my first attempt to end my life. Obviously failed. It was in that season that I made a decision I would never have children. At the age of 18 I visit a dr and told him what I wanted and with much arguing he finally consented because of my argument for the procedure. Here it is. My brothers and sisters have all been married multiple times. The brothers would go out like dogs in heat and act as if the female species were there to breed multiple children and then abandon them like trash. My sisters had several children and struggled all there life to rais them and they did very poorly. I think that God gave me the wisdom at that time to look down the road through the life of my family and realize I may not turn out much different than them. I also knew that no living human being deserved to go through what I was experiencing and I will eventually be like the rest of the family including the man who impregnated the womb I came out of. I would not allow that. I knew we become like those around us if if I was going to be like them then my family lineage needed to end. I could only do my part.
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Regrets, no. I know there are no little Stevie’s out there wondering what their daddy is like. Outwardly, I told my boy how grateful I was that he’d filled the Not all who wander are lost some are looking for cool rocks shirt and by the same token and car’s tank, proud that he’d known when to ask for help, pleased that he’d learned how to jump an engine…while quietly cringing that he may have destroyed my only vehicle at a time when I could ill-afford to replace it. To maintain curiosity is not so difficult, because curiosity is a natural part of the human character while its inhibition, which usually happens in the school years, is the result of socialization and a poor educational environment. (Unfortunately, many public school and many private schools are poor educational environments.) A curious person won’t be satisfied doing a dull job or living with an incurious person. So maintaining curiosity throughout life can come at the price of alienation from most conventional people. The risk of being considered an odd ball accepted, here are two things parents can do. Failure needs to be de-stigmatized. We learn the important things through making mistakes and when you are at a more sophisticated level you make more sophisticated mistakes. Not trying is what should be stigmatized. Failure is part of the game and failure can take you to unintended but sometimes wonderful places. People learn in various ways, it’s true, but those who have been made to feel second-class because they did not at first succeed will tend to turn themselves off from learning. In school that usually means learning only what you need to learn to get the grades, as opposed to learning to discover and grow – which is what we should all want. Fearing failure can lead to habitual opting-out of the learning process. For who wants to be a failure? Plus, if learning is associated with simply memorization, repetition, and regurgitation, who would want to do any more of that than is necessary? In the latter instance, if you do more learning than is necessary, you are also a kind of loser. This is the idea that you need to get the learning overwith to live a little bit and join life’s winners. Bottom line Happiness is divorced from learning, and that is deadly. Of course, there are some things that need to be learned that may not seem like fun, but that too is part of the game.