I have another child who went through every parent’s nightmare of teenage out of control behavior, only to end up in her twenties saying that my tough love was exactly what she needed. Told her over and over that I’d love her no matter what, but would not do anything to enable her bad choices and poor decision-making. When she started turning things around she knew where to turn for support. This is what worked for me. This answer contains insanely graphic material that will disturb some people.
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